The classy lady
My daughter sent me a link to watch this video by a lady she says is “entertaining”to watch, and it was about “how to be a classy lady”.
The woman is part of a finishing school in England, and she is herself, lovely, and has a beautiful face and a pleasant voice and accent. Everything she says makes sense when viewed through the lens of women who are in finishing school so they can present themselves to the world, and get married and have a family.
I personally support marriage and family, and I appreciate those who are willing to help vagabond women “pull it together” regarding ways they can improve their self worth and appeal, and influence.
I think that much of this content can be projected to include the rest of women in the world. Young fit women seem to start out well, but as life goes on, and they become mothers or part of the working force, they can seem to fall apart.
My advice is for women, who are already married, who have children, and who are trying to stay relevant in a world, where “valued content” seems to be primarily determined by the media.
So to help me with this, I decided to look at the classiest woman I know, my mom. When you think about my mom, think about Jacqueline Kennedy or Mary Tyler Moore. These lady's look like my mom, and display many similar values. But the biggest value my mom displays is love of God, which translates to love of others.
In other words, a classy lady is not just concerned about her own well being but she prays, and is concerned and acts as an avid participant, in the well being of others.
At age 90, my mom still volunteers at the local soup kitchen, at the polls during voting, and stands a vigil in front of the family planning clinic with other Catholics who wish to defund abortion.
She makes sure she is dressed nicely, and is on time, and follows the rules. She has balance in her life, because she spends time on cleaning her own home, she drives to do shopping for her own groceries, does her own cooking and gardening in her yard and in the common area, and walks miles a day to get her mail and visit the local bakery/coffee shop.
If being classy is about “appearance”, I think that women who are helping others, give off the best “aura”.
As an example, of this, one of the things that the lady in the “classy lady” video suggested, to give off a better aura, is that women should not wear Yoga pants as daily wear because yoga is a “sport” and since yoga pants are meant for sports, wearing them outside of yoga gives a less classy appearance. This is a valid point. (even though I am not sure Yoga is a sport)
My mom does not wear yoga pants, but she understands why others wear them, and has found a lovely solution to the comfort achieved by wearing yoga pants, because she wears jeggings with a long shirt or top that covers. Jeggings are thick fabric leggings, and people of all ages want the comfort and convenience of them, and in this country, they can be very stylish and practical, when parenting, working in a soup kitchen, or standing outside holding a sign.
None of these above listed activities my mom does, are conducive to finding a rich man by the way, yet she is still a classy lady and was married to the classiest man ever, my dad.
And as far as finding men, rich men are not necessarily happy men. Look at Bezos and Musk, and the dedication that they have to “one” woman. Are they dedicated to just one woman? Does being ultra rich make a person happy?
My mom and dad stayed married to each other only, and avoiding the pitfalls of marital discord, in my opinion, takes a classy lady. I am divorced, so I did not do as well as my mother, and I take all the blame. She gave me a great example but I had to learn things the hard way. But working on marriage, takes a classy lady mentality. A person has to be generous with their goodwill and their time.
My mom is generous. She is financially generous because she gives to the missions, and to priests who are in training. She gives to the classical music station, the library, and catholic charities. She is physically generous and gives of her time to friends in need, taking them baked apples when they are sick, or bringing them flowers. Being generous and giving of one self, is something a classy lady like my mom, does.
This is not to say that appearance is meaningless. My mom gets her hair styled and gets her nails done. She buys flattering clothes and wears beautiful dresses or dressy pants to church and to weddings and parties or events or funerals. She is a lovely lady as well, and she pays attention to posture, good health, and exercise, and is very conscious of style and propriety and prepares accordingly.
Ladies who wish to be classy should not be doing so in order to meet a man because in my opinion, the ladies who are not “trying” to meet a man, but who are trying to honor God and help others, are the ones who are classy who end up with the really good guys. Men are important to classy ladies, but all people be important to us.
When a classy lady acknowledges the value of God and others, with her behavior, she has a “halo”, as in the song by Beyonce.
I love the lady on the you tube videos, and I appreciate what she has to offer and this is by no means an attempt to negate her value and her comments. I found a video by her where she touches on the things I posted in this article.
Here is the link…
This is just a PS. (post script), PS I love you.